The confussed mind!

What is the path when there is a confusion in our mind? When you yourself don't know what you are thinking about? And don't know what you should wish for since you don't know the right way to go. They say things happen for good. Is that true? What has happened now might have been for the good, but why did the situation leading to this ever happen? Surely it cant be for the good. Unless going through pain makes one strong, but is that a valid enough reason for everything to happen? And about learning a lesson from the whole thing, it doesn't happen that way. You end to go the same way again and again. And continue until you have reached your destination So why is that some people are partial in that, they reach there in their first attempt while others flunk? Is this a fair world???????????